Seeing how important it is for you to know this, here are some free "tips" and some glimpses of what it's like to be in a psychological session!
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1. You are your own witness. You can determine how difficult the experience or event was for you. Don't let statements like "it could be worse" invalidate or minimize how you feel or what you need! You don't need "witnesses" or "permission" from anyone else to make that feeling or experience something that you are allowed to hurt.
2. Whose voice do you listen to when you judge yourself?
Finding this answer may be the most liberating feeling for you.
3. Your thoughts/feelings/impulses do not define your personality. It is your values and behavior that do!
4. Don't react when you are overwhelmed by emotions. Sit with your feelings until you understand what you are feeling and what "messages" they are giving you!
5. Don't try to understand why a person who is "negative" or "toxic" to you does what they do.
Choose to distance yourself if you need to. This way you save yourself from unnecessary anxiety and turmoil.
6. Avoid saying "I have to." It's very easy to give in to self-pressure. Instead of "I have to" do this or that, replace it with the word "I need" and ask yourself what you need!
7. You should not shrink in order to accommodate others with your existence!
8 Anxiety is not intuition. When you feel anxious and panicky, try to resist speculation. Look at the situation and ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen? How likely is it that this will happen? What can you do about it?”
9. Trauma, especially untreated, affects your behavior and coping mechanisms in everyday situations in ways you may not be able to identify. Trauma creates cycles of emotional reactions that can cause you to harm yourself and others. There are ways to break free from this behavior, but you can only do so when you are ready to deal with it. And you can do this through psychotherapy.
10. Don't let people's expectations determine how much of yourself you should give to others, it is necessary for you to set these boundaries for yourself.
/ The author is a Specialist in Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy.
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